Episode 11: Turning Disappointment into Deeper Connection
In this first episode of our 3rd season we take a look at how we respond when we experience disappointment in our friendships. As we begin to take note and name our disappointment we consider ways to rightsize the gap between what we expected and what we are experiencing.
Discussion questions:
On a scale from 1-10 Is it hard for you to recognize or acknowledge disappointment in your friendships?
Do you tend to be someone who minimizes and rationalizes the disappointment you are experiencing or do you tend to exaggerate the cost of addressing it? What influences or experiences have you had that may have helped shape this reaction?
When you consider addressing your disappointment with your friend, what prevents you from having that conversation? Do you believe that it actually can build trust?
Challenge:
This week pay attention to your friendships and take note when you experience disappointment. Keep a journal and jot down your thoughts about what you expected and why you might be experiencing disappointment. See if you learn anything about yourself as you pay attention.
As a relational person I love hosting the podcast, but it makes it even sweeter when I get to hear how you are engaging with us. I would love to hear from you either via email or on our social media sites. Email us at Relate@willowcreek.org to share your story!
Are you ready for our announcement! We would like to take it one step past emailing and posting online to continue the conversation! We want to meet you! So, you are cordially invited to attend a LIVE recording of the Relate Podcast at Willow Creek Church in South Barrington. The 4th and final episode of this season will be recorded as part of a fun friday night event. Mark your calendars now for Friday, November 15 at 7pm!. Grab a friend and come join the conversation live!
Resources:
Leadership and Self Deception by the Arbinger Institute
Crucial Conversations by Kerry Patterson & Joseph Grenny
Renovate Your Relationships by Scott Vaudrey